A guide to parenting in the smartphone era: Welcome
I’m lucky twice over. Firstly, I am a Parent, but I am also a tech entrepreneur in the parenting domain. I'm essentially a double-headed (friendly) monster - an experience that has given me vast and deep knowledge on how to help parents create their own strategy once they decided to give their Kid a personal smartphone.
In this series of short articles meant to be your parenting guide in this brave new world, I have analyzed all the thousands of pages of books, articles and research I have read in past years about parenting and technology, plus the hundreds of hours my wife and I have spent in parenting workshops, the insights from Dynamo (the startup I co-Founded in 2018), and of course - the countless hours I have invested in Jonathan, Daniel and Amit - our sweet little monkeys.
I'll be using my own unique model in these articles - a model that's important to understand. So here are the three main concepts we'll be discussing:
The Alfred Adler “Individual Psychology” theory and its Parenting implementation - In a nutshell: all people (yes, even kids) are equal, all people want to feel they create value and all people want to feel a sense of belonging.
The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do book and concept by Judith Rich-Harris - Kids' personalities are affected by genetics, family and the larger environment, which I believe is now built on the digital world and a major factor in shaping who our children grow up to be.
How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results book and concept by Esther Wojcicki - This concept essentially says that the key to good parenting is a TRICK: trust, respect, independence, collaboration and kindness.
At first glance, it may seem that these three concepts don't fit together very well, but I believe they are entirely complementary to one another, and I intend to prove it to you in the rest of this guide.
We start here.